It’s Killing a Baby, No Matter What Term You Use

As I scrolled through my news feed on my Facebook page today, I came across a friend who shared a link to an article that just sickens me to the bone.  Apparently, two ethicits in Australia are arguing for the acceptance of what they call “after-birth abortions.” They claim that a newborn is “not human.” The article later clarifies what these to mad men claim to be acceptable murder of a helpless being: if the child would be ” putting the well-being of the family at risk.”  They use the example of Down’s Syndrome.  Here is a link to the article.

I could easily add MANY four letter words and obscenities in this post, but I’m going to try to keep it as G rated as possible for you.  ARE YOU FREAKING KIDDING ME!?!  A child is a child.  A child is a HUMAN BEING, a child is the product of two people coming together for whatever reason!  You can’t sit here and tell anyone that a newborn is NOT human!  Rachel had a very rare genetic disorder.  Her prognosis for life IF she survived was VERY poor.  She probably would have drained our finances, health insurance, and every resource Ping and I have to take care of her.  But we would have done it no questions asked.  I started to feel Rachel move in the womb at about 17 weeks.  It was one of the most exciting times of my pregnancy with her.  It was a clear sign of not only was there another HUMAN inside me, but she had a mind and body separate from mine as well.  She kicked when I wanted to sleep, she punched me in places where it didn’t feel so good.  She sat on my organs and made some normal bodily functions uncomfortable.  I didn’t do that to myself.  SHE did that to ME.  She was a HUMAN BEING way before she was born!! Here’s a picture of Rachel:

Rachel was a perfect HUMAN in my eyes, her father’s eyes, grandparents and everyone that loved her; even with her disorder and other complications from birth. She had a head, two hands, two feet, eyes, ears, nose, mouth….EVERYTHING that you and I have! No one can sit here and tell a mother with their newborn HUMAN that their CHILD is “not capable of attributing to her own existence.” Yes, they are not capable of taking care of themselves, but if this were to be ethical, then this “after-birth abortion” could be applicable to a normal baby until at least the teen years depending on how they were raised.  These ethicists should be locked up in a mental institution just for even THINKING this could be okay!


Decisions, Decisions, Decisions…

Traditionally, babies in my family are born without hair.  In fact, not a strand is expected to be seen until about 2 years of age.  So, imagine my shock and surprise the day before Erin was born when I heard the ultrasound tech say, “Look at all that hair!” during the LS amnio.  I always thought babies born with hair looked ugly.  (just my opinion, don’t judge!) But when Erin was born, that perspective changed.  I couldn’t stop petting her hair.  It was so soft and cute! Here is a picture of her as a newborn:

Don’t you love all that hair!!!

So, most of us know that at a few months of life, our newborn hair is supposed to fall out and then new hair will grow back in. In the Asian tradition, the parents will shave the baby’s head by this point so all the hair grows back in evenly.  It’s also supposed to make it thick. I refused to let my baby’s wonderful hair be demolished like that! Well, Erin’s never really fell out.  But she wasn’t born with every hair on her head either.  So at around 3 months, Erin started getting more hair.  It was nice to know my child wasn’t going to always have a receding hairline. But now…everything has gotten…well…longer. Now, we are faced with the dilemma of this:

Yep.  A mullet. Ugh….I’m sure many of my childhood friends are very familiar with the mullet.  It is THE style in Kitsap County (where I grew up).  But, we live in NYC now.  This isn’t mullet country, it’s chic country. NYC sets the trend in style!  Erin has to be a trend setter, and present herself as a material girl.  Because after all, Daddy makes the money so Erin and I can spend it! 😀  Okay, you all know that isn’t Erin up there, so here is a picture of Erin now:

Front view:

What a cute little monkey!!!

Side View:

You can kind of see what I’m talking about..but everything still looks good from this angle.

Back view (Sorry for the blur…it’s really hard to get a good picture of her from behind when she knows you have the camera in hand):See!?! There! Right there, you can see the dilemma! You can see a good view of the LONG newborn hair and just under it the newer hair that’s been growing in for a while now.

My dilemma is specifically this:

Do I cut off that newborn hair and make her back hair all even, or do I keep it there and let God handle it all?

I’m afraid if I cut it, a) I’ll regret it afterward and b) the front won’t look good either since it’s long there too.  You just can’t tell since it all blends well. I know Erin won’t care either way….but I know I will!

Here’s my question again in geographical terms: Do I keep her “Kitsap County” genes around or make her more “NYC chic?”

Hoover Vacuum Edition 4.13.11

All mothers know that babies have an “oral” fixation.  It’s natural.  They want to chew on things. Usually it is a sign of teething.  I was also warned that babies can be picky eaters.  They will spit out or throw out whatever they don’t like.  But no one warned me of the new vacuum cleaner I was about to receive. Erin has a pretty good pincer grasp.  And even though I use a traditional vacuum on a daily basis to keep our floors clean, she still finds things that were left behind. Here’s a list of a few things Erin has managed to digest with or without my knowing:

– Cheerios that rolled under the couch or in a corner

– Old pieces of baked apple and other food on the kitchen floor

– string

– baby sitter’s LONG hair (this seems to only partially come out the other end…I have to ummm…errrr….finish pulling it out for her. :/

– paper

– paper

-more paper

– poop (yes, folks poop….from her diaper….as I was attempting to change it)

– lint

– lint

-more lint

Now where is that packing slip that Ping and I can’t seem to find??